||-- fLiRtS - MaLigNaNt Or BeNiGn??? --||

Flirting is seen as a 'must' these days. When a guy meets a gal or vice versa, sweet coying words are exchanged and it just goes on... Well, if both parties are aware that there is no serious attraction but mere flirting, than its perfectly fine.. After all, who ever says we cannot have fun? But, what if one party actually falls for this so called harmless flirting? And tends to have hopes? then he/she is sure in for a major heartbreak.... For an instance, what bout this convo :-

A few days after getting to know each other :- Guy :- how can come dating ahh Girl :- i dont date attacehd guys Guy :- ermm ler y ler...can ahh??? Girl :- lol.. i dont meet people i just got to know... Guy :- we meet ler n know each other Girl :- lol nahhhh Guy :- boleh kan... i meet u ....u come kl Girl :- nah sorry...i dont meet strangers ya.... Day 2 :-

Guy :- wer r u now.... i miss u Girl :- i came for a holiday... Guy:- ler.. tak i come lepak wit u ter.... kekekekekekekeke....kesian alone Girl :- looooool... no thanks..i came with my frens... Guy :- ur friend who Girl :- my fren la Guy:- gal or boy Girl :-looooooooooooooooooool... y y? Guy:- tell ler Girl :- lol girl la.... Guy :-erm bored... i cari u tak dapat...wat ur contack number? Girl :- lol no num all.... Is this playfully getting to know each other or harmful flirting????

And what about this scenario…

A guy who knows a girl for a few months comes up to her and sends this letter oblivious to the fact that she knows he is already attached to another gal?

hai GAL, how r u. well its me as u know i am. i am typin this letter just to say the feelings i am having wit u . well as u know , i am just a normal living human thtas has notin much to say bout my past cause i think u know almost know all bout it. well i been so afraid to say this too u cause i know that i am not in the level to say this to u. but i f to cause its killing everday n makes me so weak in mind . maybe i dont f the cash or even i am not good looking like ur future heroes but i toook this courage to say that i like you. wheather its wrong or rite i dont know, even if u reject me i know its not ur fault cause i am just noting if compared to ur friends ur lifestyle. i am just a moron that dont even reached singapore in my life... i dont money in my pocket, no looks no good education. the onlu thing i f is my damm life n lies around me. i wanna be true this time n really wan a true relationship. i promise i can make u happy i will work hard to do that ma... just ned ur trust in me n just a chance for this moron.... u can ask y me? well y u cause as ever i been in this irc i just found ur the only girl beem true n been so nice to me.... n ur past really makes me feel sp stupid well even the guys who play around get a chance y dont me ? i just wanted a true heart that can care n love me forever..... pls ned ur love... thanks GUY, wit all the hope n love...

So the question here is,

- y do these guys do such things?

- if they already have a gf/fiancee/wife, y do they resort to two timing?

- dont they ever stop to think of the consequences? what if the GAL actually accepts his proposal? what is the fate that awaits her?

- what are the solutions for ppl like this GUY or GAL in this situation???

*Wondering SouL PoNderS*